Kiki Fehling, PhD

So much of my work in LGBTQ-affirmative DBT has been informed by the fabulous work of Dr. John Pachankis and colleagues at @YQMHI. They’re offering many virtual therapist training opportunities in LGBTQ-affirmative cognitive-behavioral therapy, so now you can learn from them too! Continued education credits from APA and NASW are available, as are student/provider discounts and student scholarships. If you want more info, comment “training” below or send me a DM, and I will send you the link! #cognitivebehavioraltherapy #lgbtqmentalhealth #therapist #therapisttraining

A simple, grounding mindfulness practice to try when you’re just learning or when you’re trying to cope with anxiety. #mindfulness #copingskills #dbtskills

Replying to @___jackie___ is BPD heritable? Yes, BPD development is more complicated than just genes! #bpd #borderlinepersonalitydisorder

Let’s be clear: DBT skills are always a work in progress! Perfection is never actually the goal—we need to do better, and we’re doing our best, dialectically. #dbt #dbtskills #dialecticalbehaviortherapy

Replying to @Isobel, LCSW some of my thoughts about CPTSD vs PTSD vs BPD. It’s complicated. More research is needed for sure—my opinion could change pretty easily with new data!

Find the “avoidance advent” journal over at @bad art every day 🎨 ‘s profile! 🩵🩵 #avoidance

Yes yes, it’s a dialectic… Emotions are complex. They’re full-system experiences made up of physical sensations, behaviors, thoughts, urges, nonverbal expressions, and consequences. Emotions and behaviors are a part of the same system. AND emotions and behaviors are separate. It is possible to feel an emotion strongly—to really really feel like acting in alignment with that emotion—and to still choose behavior that “doesn’t match” that emotion. Like so much else, seeing and making this distinction is a skill you can learn and practice! DBT emotion regulation and distress tolerance skills can help. #Dbt #dbtskills #emotionregulation

Replying to @HaleyOT new worksheet available at my link!

Replying to @leilajade20 some common ways BPD misdiagnosis happens, in my experience working as a DBT therapist. #bpd #dbt #bpdmisdiagnosis

When emotions are running high, “Check the facts” a bit more quickly with these three questions. 1. What emotion am I feeling right now? 2. What story is my mind telling me about this situation? 3. Is this story the only explanation? (Or is it just really loud right now?) #dbt #dbtskills #copingskills

Amazing new DBT resource in a lovely new book: Real Skills for Real Life. And no I was not paid to promote this book—I just really love it! #dbt #dbtskills

On the #transawareness week, I wanted to speak about how minority stress negatively impacts trans people’s mental health, and how we can all help. #mentalhealth #lgbtqmentalhealth

Want to learn more about how DBT skills can help parents cope with emotional overwhlem, stress, and the many difficult emotions that come with being a parent in today's world? Check out my recent conversation with @lesliecohenrubury on "Is My Child a Monster?" parenting podcast. In this clip, we're talking about the power of co-regulation! #dbt #dbtskills #parentingskills

LGBTQ+ people face unique mental health struggles, many due to anti-LGBTQ discrimination and stigma. Research shows that DBT can help LGBTQ+ people with a variety of emotional difficulties, as long as it’s provided in an affirming way. #dbt #lgbtqmentalhealth