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#Iknow that I want someone who lights up when they see me. Who doesn't make me doubt how wanted I am. Life is too short to waste on a person who treats affection like a burden. If love feels like a chore to them, they are not your person, they're your lesson. Healthy relationships don't make you beg for attention. They make you feel chosen, valued, and safe without having to earn it. Stop chasing people who act like loving you is an inconvenience! #relationshipgoals #relationship #love #anxiousattachment

#Iknow that if my man couldn’t speak I would still fall in love with him because of his actions. His presences speaks volumes, his gentleness calms my racing heart when I’m nervous or anxious, his understanding brings me peace and his eyes look at me in a way that I know I’m loved, adored and respected. Remember ladies words are easily spoken, but actions are a lot harder to achieve, so if your man’s actions don’t match his words or don’t make you feel loved, appreciated and adored then what are you doing??? #relationshipgoals #relationship #love #anxiousattachment

#Iknow which one I’m choosing every time!! Give me a man who doesn’t need to be taken care of or told what to do. A man who treats me with love, respect, gentleness, kindness, compassion and who supports my dreams! Who communicates without getting defensive and can always take the lead. Because guess what as a woman being able to shut our brains off once in a while because we know that we have a man and not a boy is top tier! #relationshipgoals #relationship #love #men

#Iknow that once you’re healed you won’t seek out that attention anymore because you’re not looking for someone else’s validation because you can now give it to yourself! Your people pleasing will go out the window and you will focus more on your wants and needs. You won’t see codependency and enmeshment as intimacy or support because you will be ok being independent and thriving on your own! And if you do have a disagreement it won’t feel like an attack because you will have the communication skills to communicate your feelings without getting defensive or shutting down. You will finally have boundaries and won’t let anyone break them or push them anymore because you finally know your worth. #relationship #relationshipgoals #healed #anxiousattachment

#Iknow that healthy communication is key and I find it extremely useful in my relationship to have relationship check ins at least once a month to make sure me and my partner are not only satisfied in the relationship, but also to keep growing in a healthy way. Here are some questions to get you started: How have you been feeling about us lately?, Is there something you've been holding back?, What's one small thing we could improve together?, Are you feeling emotionally safe with me?, Is there anything I've been doing that makes things harder for you?, What do you need more of from me right now?, When do you feel most connected to me? #relationship #relationshipgoals #anxiousattachment #loveyou

#Iknow that when you accept the bare minimum you are accepting less than you deserve. He texted you? Great. He made time for you? Amazing. He treated you with respect? As he fucking should. That's not special, that's the standard. You've been conditioned to celebrate crumbs because you're used to inconsistency, but consistency is not a luxury, it's the baseline. You know what effort looks like because you give it so willingly and freely and you deserve that same effort back so stop settling and level up! #relationship #relationshipgoals #anxiousattachment #healed

#Iknow Choosing not to date until you're in a healthier place after a breakup is emotional intelligence. It means giving yourself time to reflect and heal instead of reenacting the same old patterns with a new person. Some people never self-reflect. They jump from one relationship to the next driven by loneliness and boredom. Looking at ourselves is uncomfortable, yes. But without self-reflection, we repeat the same patterns and end up in the same situations all over again, just with different people. Imagine if more people took the time to process, reflect, and learn from their relationships. Healthier partners build better relationships. #relationship #relationshipgoals #love #anxiousattachment

#Iknow You don't miss them... You miss the version of them you hoped they would become. You miss the potential. Not the pattern. Please give yourself the chance to be loved by someone new. Do not go back to someone who had the chance to love you...And instead chose to lose you. Because going back doesn't mean the love is stronger. Sometimes it just means the attachment is louder. If they had the capacity to love you safely, they would have...Not after you begged. Not after you shrank. Not after you broke. The first time. Real love won't feel like convincing. #relationship #relationshipgoals #anxiousattachment #love

#Iknow that I want to be with someone who is always going to think about how their actions would make me feel. Someone who pays attention to detail. Who notices when I’m a little off and who comforts and embraces me rather than shuns me or is uncomfortable with my emotions. Who makes decisions in regard to my well being and how it might affect me. In any bond, it’s how much they care about you which can be found in how much they consider you. #relationship #relationshipgoals #love #anxiousattachment

#Iknow if you want to find a partner you have to say NEXT to these low effort men and put yourself first in order to truly find someone who values and respects you! #relationship #relationshipgoals #anxiousattachment #love

#Iknow that at this point in my life it's not about the butterflies and the rollercoasters, but the consistency and calmness that my partner brings to me every single day. I don't want to wake up in the mornings having to walk on egg shells or having little panic attacks because my anxious attachment is activated. I want a love that is reassuring and chooses me every single day without reservation! It’s not about the fire or spark, but about the slow burn that’s going to keep that passion lit for a very long time! #relationship #relationshipgoals #anxiousattachment #Love

#Iknow that when you find the right one your smile will come back, your belly will ache from laughing so hard and all those tears you cried will have dried up and been long forgotten because you finally have a partner who can’t stand to see you hurt, but who protects your heart like a fortress and can’t wait to make you smile every single day! #relationship #love #relationshipgoals #anxiousattachment

#Iknow the amount of lessons it took me to achieve the love I have now and deserve was worth all the heartache and pain I went through to get it! Without the rain and storms there would be no rainbows and wisdom to be gained and let me tell you I feel like I have gained more knowledge about myself and relationships in this one lifetime and am so amazed at how far I’ve come in this journey of love. Valentine’s Day was not always a favorite holiday of mine in fact when it rolled around I would just shrug it off and put on a Galentine’s day for me and my girls, but when I found my man I knew I found the one because he goes above and beyond and makes every day feel like Valentine’s Day and so when the day actually comes it’s really just an extra bonus of the love he already has to give. Ladies if you want a love you deserve, it will happen and I know this bc it happened for me, but only after I went through hell and back and learned what kind of love I wanted and how I was never going to settle ever again for less than the kind of love that I DESERVED! If you want any tips or advice don’t hesitate to message me. Remember wisdom is only good when it’s shared ♥️ Happy Valentine’s Day #love #valentinesday #relationshipgoals #relationships

#Iknow that when a man is truly ready to commit there won’t be any hesitation or second guessing on his end. You will feel as if you are the crack that this man is addicted to! He will swoop you up so fast you won’t even know what hit you! But in order to make sure you don’t fall for someone who is love bombing you, you need to be healed! A man who is intentional will want you, but will also be patient with you. He won’t push you and won’t rush you and most of all he will respect you! He will go at your pace and when your ready he will dive in head first! #anxiousattachment #relationship #relationshiptips #love

#Iknow that eventually the day to day mundane stuff will hit especially when you live together, but it’s important that even in those mundane boring moments you find joy, happiness and laughter with the one you choose to do life with otherwise it really will be a boring mundane life and who wants that?? #relationship #attachmentstyle #romance #relationshipgoals